Fuck Marriage.
Before I say this, let me be clear about a couple things: I’m gay. I really like boys. So, that is a true fact about me.
I believe in a penis vagina marriage. What does this mean you ask? I believe that marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman.
You’re thinking: “What the fuck?”
Let me explain.
Marriage is a union, before God, which was created by religion. Also, marriage is not a human right, it’s a religious right. Love is a human right. Now, having said that, I want to explain some things so that you guys don’t rip me a new ass hole. ‘
First of all, why the fuck would you want to be apart of something when you don’t even believe in It? I’m assuming you’re not religious. And I’m not saying that it should be only gays who don’t get to married, it should be all people who aren’t religious. Straight people included. Second, why the fuck would you want to be apart of something that clearly doesn’t want you. Are you trying to fit in? Religious people, Christians, Muslims, Jews, they don’t want anything to do with us, so fuck them, we shouldn’t want anything to do with them. Third, let’s be honest, what does the word “marriage” really mean? It’s a hollow word that straight people have destroyed. There’s a 52% divorce rate in this country. It means nothing and then you become part of a statistic.
You wanna know what I want? I want my partner to be able to share my health insurance with me. I want my partner to be able to take care of my kids if something happens to me. I don’t give a shit about a title, I don’t want the word, I want the benefits that straight people get. I want to be equal under the law. The word marriage means nothing, because heterosexuals have made it mean nothing. I want what comes with the word marriage.
Do you understand what I’m saying? Reply back to me!
The problem is that some of us are religious—deeply religious—and even come from gay affirming religious communities in which we would like to be married.
I don’t want to be married in a church, synagogue, or temple that doesn’t accept me for who I am, but there are many, many places of worship that do accept me for who I am and believe my love is just as real and precious as the love of any straight person.
Trust me, I’m not forcing myself into some horrible institution. I am by no means your typical “religious” person. You see, for me being a “deeply religious” person doesn’t mean following any particular book literally or accepting doctrine or even attending services regularly. Religion for me is (and has always been) a connection with people on a very basic level and a deep spiritual appreciation for a higher power.
In my city alone, there are 15 publicly gay-affirming places of worship that regularly advertise in our local gay publications and attend pride events. There are multiple churches, a couple synagogues, and a Buddhist group that come and celebrate every June at the parade in San Antonio.
Religion does fit into the lives of some LGBT people. I very much want a religious marriage—but more importantly, I want a marriage recognized by the federal government that affords me the same rights and protections given to heterosexual couples. And I want my future children to be safe in custody of their two fathers and never have to worry about the validity of their fathers’ marriage.
You don’t have to want to get married. It’s not for everybody. But I do want to be married—and I do want to have a religious interfaith ceremony. Our desires are compatible. We need to fight for our rights.
